Let Go... and Let God. How Prayer Changed My Life.

I read a book a few years ago. It said... there are two ways to approach prayer: to use it as your last resource, or use it as your first.

When people face problems, they usually try everything. They ask their friends, they google their problems, they hire consultants. And when everything else fails, they try prayer.

I used to be that kind of person. I stressed myself out, I drank a few bottle of beers, I cursed some people. Result? I made that problem bigger.

I think the better approach would be... to make prayer our first resource. "Be still and know that I am GOD" (Psalm 46:10). The Bible doesn't instruct us to keep worrying, to do all kinds of stuffs to make other people pity us.



Prayer is like sending our problem away by Fedex. We trust Fedex to deliver our package, and that's all. We don't need to check every hour or every minute where our package is. What we know is... somehow the package is delivered. How? We don't know, but somehow, it's done.

When we trust God with our problems, He will tell us "OK, got it. Now the problem is mine, not yours." If we pray and still worry, God will doubt whether we trust Him. He will tell us "Excuse me son, you think I am not good enough to solve your problems?"

Don't tell God how big our problem is, tell our problem how big our God is.

"Whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours" (Mark 11:24).

Choosing Advice

In the past 3 years since my last post, I have changed. A LOT. I gained some wisdom and become more mature along the way. But the negative side is... I got influenced more heavily by people. I am a melancholic by nature, so I think about everything deeply... sometimes too deeply. The flip side? I got stressed easily.

Until my friend gave me this piece of advice... this is what he said in his own words.

"Ben, in life you will meet lots of people... and they will tell you this and that. Some of the things they say are smart. Some are stupid. Some are very stupid. Some are unbelievably stupid. Wise people can decide what to follow. Listen to everyone, but follow your heart."

I tell you, I have some of the smartest friends one could ever get. People say our success and personality are the average of 6 of our closest friends. So... choose your friends wisely.

Being Your Best

My roommate and I had a conversation last night. We discussed which one is better: being excellent in one or two things or being reasonably good in lots of different things. We got different opinion with that matter.

I think life is so competitive that we just can't afford to be just good, not to mention to be average. Wanna have a proof?

In male tennis, current world number 1 is Novak Djokovic. He has accumulated career prize money of some USD 35 million. That doesn't include his endorsement money etc which is way more that that. World number 100? Joao Souza with USD 458,000, that's around 76 times less compared to Djokovic.


Assuming that there are 100,000 people playing tennis in the world (I think there're more), both Djokovic and Souza are in the top 0.1%. Any statistician will tell you, top 1% in any industry is considered very good and the top 0.1% is beyond compare. But why is there such a distinct difference in terms of income?

My point? Being just very good sucks. You gotta be excellent, you gotta be the best in something. People pay top dollars to watch Djokovic. Why? because he's good? No way! Because he's the best.

I rest my case.

I am Back!

May 3, 2009. Yes, that was the last time I blogged. Now, almost 3 years from that last post...

I am back. Better. Improved.

Just like Kim Clijsters did her come back in 2009 after being a mom, I do my comeback (not after being a dad though.)

Still, it's a milestone.

Write to you soon guys. Miss it so much!